Personal vs Impersonal Sex

The ability to talk to your partner about lovemaking is truly one of the most powerful things you can do to have great sex. Statistically speaking, only 9% of couples who can’t comfortably talk with one another about sex say that they are satisfied sexually, as well as satisfied in general with their relationships. On the other hand, over 50% of couples who can (and do) talk with one another openly about sex are satisfied sexually and are satisfied in general with their relationships (Dr. John Gottman). That’s a pretty big difference.

We believe in the idea of creating very personal sex in a committed, trusting relationship, and for good reason. In our opinion, impersonal sex is nowhere near as exciting as the sex that people get to enjoy in committed relationships. This is because if people know, trust and love one another, they are really interconnecting when they make love and it becomes more than just a physical act. It is an emotional joining, one with excitement and tenderness. The excitement that one person feels wells up and spills over into their partner’s excitement and enhances their experience.