Healthy Sex

A Healthy Sex life

Have you found that your sex life with your spouse is becoming more ‘boring’ throughout the years? For some couples, in the beginning, sex is extremely joyful. But ten years roll around and it’s seems as if sexual desire is absent.

Sex is being completely vulnerable in front of your spouse, giving them your whole person: body, mind, heart and emotions. If there is something missing then it’s off balance, just like any system. When there is any obstacle, whether it’s from your childhood or your past experiences, contrary to popular rationale, these obstacles can actually be a greater way to personally heal and grow in intimacy with your spouse. There may be many reasons for an absence of sex in a marriage but it’s something that is essential and needs to be brought to the surface.

If this seems all to familiar in your life, try reviewing your childhood lessons and experiences to better understand anything that may be hindering the way that you view sex. Also, religion can play a roll in ones openness with your spouse. When you get married and have sex with your spouse, many people seem to have a mis-interpretation of what biblical sex is. It doesn’t have to be “proper adult sex.” Sex is becoming one with your spouse and is glorifying to God. So, if you view it as sinful, dirty, and bad then you’ll have a more difficult time understanding and benefiting from sex with your spouse. Things people shy away from are things like role-play, being in control, having power and showing weakness can be exciting and fun.

Marriage is tough. And more often than not, couples think they know everything about their spouse until it’s challenged. The unfortunate truth is, most couples do not truly know their spouses inner world. Before pleasure, comes intimacy. Good sex comes with trust, safety and intimacy with your spouse.

Sex offers a lot in a marriage. It’s a get-away, something to distract you from all the stresses in your life, and it brings you and your spouse pleasure and oneness. It can be anything you want it to be, so take pleasure in it.